Grieving During the Holidays: Finding Comfort in a Difficult Season After Pregnancy & Infant Loss

The holidays are often associated with joy, togetherness, and celebration, but for those grieving a loss, they can be an especially challenging time. The empty seat at the table, cherished traditions that now feel incomplete, or even the pressure to appear cheerful can deepen feelings of sadness and loneliness.

At the United By Loss Foundation, we understand how hard this season can be. Here are some tips to help you navigate the holidays while honoring your grief and finding moments of comfort.

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel sad, overwhelmed, or even numb during the holidays. Grief doesn’t follow a schedule, and it’s important to give yourself permission to experience your emotions without judgment.

   
   

   Tip: Journaling or speaking with a trusted friend or therapist can help you process these feelings.

   
   

2. Set Boundaries: You don’t have to say “yes” to every holiday invitation or tradition. Assess what feels manageable for you and communicate your needs to friends and family.

   
   

   Tip: It’s okay to skip gatherings or leave early if you feel overwhelmed. Let loved ones know in advance how they can support you.

   
   

3. Create New Traditions: If old traditions feel too painful, consider creating new ones that honor your loved one in a meaningful way.

   
   

   Ideas:

   • Light a candle in their memory.

   • Cook their favorite dish and share a story about them.

   • Donate to a cause they cared about.

4. Get Help: The holidays can amplify feelings of isolation. Don’t hesitate to lean on your support network. Whether it’s attending a grief support group or asking a friend to check in with you, remember that you don’t have to go through this alone.

   
   

   Join Us: Consider attending our upcoming Grief Support Workshop on Saturday, February 8, 2025, where you can connect with others who understand what you’re going through.

5. Find Moments of Peace: Carve out time for self-care and activities that bring you comfort. Whether it’s a quiet walk, reading, or simply taking deep breaths, small acts of self-kindness can make a difference.

   
   

   Tip: Practice mindfulness or listen to calming music to ground yourself during overwhelming moments.

   
   

   

   Remember, you are not alone. Schedule your individual grief support session with us.

   You Are Not Alone

   
   

   The holidays may never feel the same after a loss, and that’s okay. Healing takes time, and grief is a journey unique to everyone. Remember, you are not alone in this.

   
   

   At the United By Loss Foundation, we are here to walk alongside you. If you need additional support, reach out to us or explore the resources on our website. Together, we can find ways to honor your loved one and move toward healing.

   
   

   Need Support?

   If you’re struggling this holiday season, don’t hesitate to contact us or register for our individual grief support sessions. Visit www.unitedbylossfoundation.com/grief-support-groups for more information.